Grieving is a natural process we must all go through at some point in our lives. For most, it can me overwhelming and too difficult to deal with. Here are 10 things you should know about grieving.
1. You are not alone.
Grief can be a lonely process but it doesn’t have to be. It’s okay to admit you are not okay. Try looking for support groups in your area.
2. There is no time limit on grief.
Grieving makes most people uncomfortable thus, they rush to get back to a happy place and later find themselves overwhelmed or feeling waves of sadness and anxiety. Grief doesn’t have an expiration date. It’s okay to take the time you need to deal with your feelings and emotions.
3. Everyone has a different grieving process.
Hold people accountable to respecting yours. Surround yourself with people who are willing to give you the space you need to heal by being empathetic listeners.
4. Brain dump.
When grieving your mind can often go on overload with things you wish you had the opportunity to say or do. Write them down. Release your mind from holding on to things that didn’t come to pass. Your mind will believe whatever you tell it. Manifest good intentions and good memories will follow.
5. Give yourself grace.
Grieving is difficult for even the strongest and most powerful people. Just take it one day at a time. The rest will fall into place.
6. You don’t have to be everything for everyone.
Start with healing yourself first. It’s difficult to help others when your heart is broken. Deal with your grief and others will follow.
7. Ask for help. We can all use a little support when grieving.
It’s okay to speak to a professional. A large part of the grieving process is mental.
8. Find a place that makes you feel at peace.
It’s okay to make time for yourself. Learn to embrace the silence and listen to your heart.
9. Moving forward doesn’t mean erasing the past.
At some point, you will begin to look to the future. This doesn’t mean that you are erasing your loved one from your life. It just means you have come to a place where you can release some of the pain to enjoy the memories of the past.
10. It’s your grief to deal with take the time you need to process it without judgment.
Set clear boundaries and hold yourself and others accountable to respecting them. You control your story. Be mindful of the access you give to others.
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